FGM: Cutting off their source of pleasure & happiness

I was shocked to hear her say so...

And I hope she didnt see the shock in my eyes... It was right beside me... It was with me every single day for 2 years now and I didnt know it...

She simply asked me out of nowhere "do you know what is female circumcision? are you circumcized like us?"... For a second, I didnt know what to tell her... I am not circumcised and I couldnt lie to her... So I told her I wasnt, I didnt face what they faced and hopefully wont face what they are facing now...

It was so weird hearing that from her... Ive known her for 2 and a half years and we never spoke of anything personal... And all of a sudden I found her complaining about marriage, her sex life, and her being circumcised... And that was too much to grasp in the same minute...

So she started by telling me her experience after marriage... She told me that intercourse is troublesome... She said that he was expecting something from her and he didnt get it... And here is where she told me that she was circumcised... So I asked her whether she enjoyed having sex, and she gave me the expected depressing answer that she didnt because she doesnt have the source of pleasure... She even said it was painful and not enjoyable... "But there are feelings" she said... But I didnt get what she meant by "feelings"... But whatever that is, there was no pleasure in the scene...

I started wondering whether she's happy... She looks happy, but is she Really happy when she doesnt know what pleasure feels like and only feels pain? Or is she happy because either way she doesnt know anything about sexual relationships or how they should be??!! Is she upset that she is unable to please her husband?

Then came my other colleague, who asked me the same question without knowing that my first colleague was talking about the same issue... She sounded happy that I am not, and told me that she accuses her sister of being an idiot cause she did this to her little daughter... Although her husband didnt want that to happen...

She also told me that their parents always told them that circumcision is a sign of a girl's honor... It is also a proof that she is not a whore... That she is well-behaved and mannered... But she saw many uncircumcised girls who are mannered and behaved... And said that she wouldnt do that to her daughter (if she ever has one)...

What shocked me even more is that both of them had no idea what sexual intercourse is all about... They didnt know about foreplay, or arousal, or orgasm... NOTHING... They are 10 yrs older than I am and know nothing about how sex goes... And one of them is actually married... I am in extreme shock and frustration knowing that... How the hell do those people actually get married?? How do they do it when they dont feel any pleasure? Do they do it out of duty? And why are that all that ignorant? Dont they read? watch movies? hear some advice from their friends, parents, relatives, ANYBODY?!?!?!

More shocking is the fact that women are the ones insisting on circumcising their daughters... How the hell can a woman inflict pain on her child? But if u think of it from another angle, this is how their culture is, actually MY culture is... If she is not circumcised, then she is an alien, an "outsider", someone not abiding to the beliefs of the majority... So who am I to judge them as right or wrong? I am just a part of 20% of the citizens of this country who had the chance to get some good education... So I suddenly thought of myself as the weird one, the one not belonging to the group, the minority.. Actually, I felt like I was the one who is wrong and not accepted by my own culture... Or maybe the one they want to be like or wish to be in her place!

Am I the image of what the Western thinking is trying to do to my country? Am I the developed part of the underdeveloped country I'm living in? Am I better or worse off??? I know that I'm definitely glad that I am what I am, but do I have the right to tell them that they are wrong???

I just wish they would end this act because they deprive women of many nice things in this world... And I also wish they would stop using the term "FGM" for Female Genital Mutilation...