"Commitment Freaks" and "Priority Seekers"

We were having a business related conversation when I suddenly found myself asking him (my cousin) "why arent u getting married already?"...
He is 35... He is gorgeous, smart, fun, kind, generous, and well off... What else would any girl in the world want?!

And he was like "Whenever I get close to someone, I feel pressured, and feel like she is taking my freedom from me"... I think he has turned into a commitment freak... When I asked him what does she do to make you breakup with her or decide not to commit?? He simply said "Girls want 100% attention and presence... They want to be our first priority... and the truth is, they are our first priority and they truly come before work... and being busy at work and not giving her too much time is not something we love doing... I am working to make her life easier and make her happier... I dont love work, I have to do it to make our lives better... After a little while of being together, she starts asking the normal annoying questions 'where have you been? why dont u answer ur phone? why dont you call me or check on me?' I feel trapped and annoyed... I wouldnt sacrifice my freedom unless she is someone I REALLY love... in that case, love would make me blind enough to tolerate all the annoyment"...

He was right... We women want their full attention... Their being always there is something we always seek... I always hated his (my ex) job because he spent so many hours there... And when he started studying, he spent more hours everywhere but with me... Even our phonecalls became shorter and right before he went to bed, that I usually initiated hanging up because I always wanted him to have some rest to be able to resume his energy the next day... But I never asked him to call me more or give me more time... I just commented rarely by saying that I dont want him to study anymore so that he can have more time for me... Is that what made him run away... Did I really freak him out and gave him the impression that I want to be his first priority (before work)? I never thought that way... I always knew that Men, especially Middle Eastern ones, give their work and career more importance than women do.. But this is not that they dont love us, its because they have so many obligations that they have to fulfill as men... Thats why we are always some how left behind at home wondering if they love work more than they love us... A man's Career success is important for her actually more than it is for him... This makes her respect him and look highly upon him and makes the relationship last...

I hope that one day I would marry some guy who is successful so I can look highly upon him... And I promise I will try so hard not to complain...